One thing that strikes me when I see the new guys entering the world of pickup is that they’re very accustomed to being the ones selected by girls. I mean, when you’re learning the skills to attract women you have to make many approaches, you see a set of girls and you approach them, hoping that the conversation doesn’t go sour.

And maybe you are making the mistake of not selecting the girl you want to attract before you made the approach.

Ok, I understand when that happens to the new guys. They are so focus on keep the conversation going that they turn their attention to the first girl that seem interested in them. But, what’s the point of that? You learn to attract women so that you have the power to attract the girl you want, not the first girl who’s giving you her attention. If you dig deeper you’ll understand why this happen:

Many of these guys are attracting the first or second girl in their lives. It’s only natural that they get excited and forget the girl that made them make the approach.

Now, I want you to ask yourself a question. When it comes to women and dating, are you the one selecting the girl you like?

Many of us struggle to approach and attract girls. And let me tell you: if you don’t have the skills to attract women you’ll be the one who’s getting selected all the time. And I’m being optimistic; many guys don’t get selected at all.